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Chloe Leffakis's avatar

I have too many thoughts on having kids. I would like to have kids, but that won't happen. Very informative blog and podcast with Carter Dillard. Everyone please read, listen, and share.

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I am the opposite since I was aware of what having kids meant. I have never wanted children of my own. I remember once telling a guy in college who liked me this. He was so apalled and confused he actually pretty much stopped talking to me even though we sat next to each other lol. Luckily my mom was not a typical Latin mom who wanted me to be married at 15 with a hoarde of them. Instead she said education is key. I saw her struggles as a single mom. I myself worry way too much. A kid replaces your own life to me. It is a sacrifice you have to make. It is no longer about you. I love to travel & do me. I have a zoo and I worry about my animals and have to plan any travels around them. I will not leave them with strangers. Now that I moved international travel is on hold because I only pay mom to babysit them. My other main reasons to not have a kid exactly that overpopulation. Factory farms exist because small town farms cannot sustain the demand for so many. I think people's reasons for a kid are selfish. I want sthg to love me. I want to pass on my male name. I. I have never honestly heard a valid unselfish reason. I don't even know what reason it would be. Maybe I want to share my love and guide another human being to become a productive being to Earth to help create a new future lol. That sounds like NWO shit now lol. So I ask WHY do you want to have kids? Honestly though lately I look at newborns and feel an instinct, but then thinking about them crying all night and having to tend to them makes me want to have a mental breakdown lol. Now don't get me wrong. I do not hate kids. Total opposite. I think they bring that light and joy just like innocent animals. We used to play with a kid as teens who had a meth mom whod not feed him & hed basically live with us afterschool & my mom fed him too. I would rather go have a water balloon fight with kids then talk to someone my age cuz gosh they're fucking boring & miserable. We become dead inside & bitter as we age it seems. I am still super goofy and a dork. If the world was full of middle-aged (me 37 years old) and old ppl how boring. Their innocence & wonder I envy because I know the ugly truth they'll soon discover. My other reason. We mostly suffer in this life. We are slaves to society mostly. And the list of the rest mental illness. My dad has anxiety and my Aunt is fucking insane. And why does it have to be my blood? I actually plan to foster kids. There are so many kids in the system being physically, sexually, emotionally abused who need love. Why do I need to bring a kid that looks like me to be fulfilled? It's the human ego. I definitely don't want another mini me running amuck how scary 🤣😂 But I think ppl who want kids should have that right. I still think there should be a 2 kid limit & a rule you have to be mentally, physically, financially stable because too many shit people having kids then abandoning them hence my daddy issues 😜 But seriously having a kid is not like a toy just like pet ownersip. Once my dogs die. My responsibility is over, but a kid is 4 life.

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