I guess we're a few that speak our minds. Since a teen I've been supporting the animal rights movement. I've been to 2 protests in my life. I'm 28 now and still fully support animal rights movement. It's so ridiculous that even powerful people can't see compassion for a innocent animal. I don't see why anyone would still support factory farming.. are they so damn afraid that they'll run out of food? They're stupid and selfish. I'll never understand why they wanna support keeping slaughter houses and the like no matter their excuse it's so beyond evil and absurd.
Great your thinking these things through. One thing you don't seem to be addressing is malevolent forces against truth - like those for crt, etc - ready to attack, get people fired - knowing very well that they are on the side of untruth. I'm thinking of those against available cheap medication during the c-virus supposed pandemic. But also much else. By the way, i am very much for excellent communication skills, self-listening, etc.
I laughed when you said your paper is crap lol! I am glad you realized you should instead provide constructive criticism, but you are right. Things have become weird. A lot of Cancel Culture too where your whole life can be ruined and in some cases its justified like racism, but now theres so many things I used to say like the word "retard" when I called my sister this when she'd do sthg silly or thats "gay" sthg we said growing up in the 90s now is blasphemy. I would always say hey it means happy 😜 I am glad for the politically correct in some ways, but in others then we're all afraid to express ourselves. I kind of feel sorry for some white ppl because some of them are ashamed to be white because of all the backlash of some of their tyranny in the past and present concerning other races and I definitely believe we as minorities can be racist too against white ppl. But I have always strived to be honest. I have never been cruel in my honesty unless its sthg I feel is immoral, but I have always been upfront about my intentions which I find most ppl aren't. Somehow they always want sthg from you. I have never been like that. I give everyone chances. In the dating world especially. I tell a guy upfront I am just not feeling it and most of them get very angry which I do not understand as I say it very politely. As women we are taught more to be even more censored. I am sure if I was being raped, I would be afraid to scream because what if I am overreacting or I am making a scene. As women were taught more to shut up, serve men, were emotional. I had to fight the way I was raised. Respect your elders, never talk back, don't question your parents, etc. Nope respect is earned it doesn't matter who you are. My mom commends me now she's like I am glad you did somethings your own way even though I lived up to my early 20s how I believed she wanted me to be. Now I am a full blown Karen lmfao. Not the racist parts, but I will fight for my things and beliefs and if my opinion is warranted I do share. But even still I sometimes am afraid to say sthg. I start doubting myself. I have been in a lot of positions where corporations want to fuck you over by discriminating against you or doing illegal things like reporting unpaid wages, injuries, etc. Most of the time they do retaliate. I thought I had coworkers who were my "friends" and said they'd say sthg, but when the moment came they didnt stand up and say shit. I actually blew the whistle and HR ended up paying everyone months worth of unpaid wages and those pussy asses got it at my expense, but I am used to it cuz I am never afraid to get a new job. I was thinking about this politician like Cory Booker whos vegan, but he also keeps it very subtle and doesn't speak much about his beliefs because he will be ostracized. It just boggles my mind how people are so threatened by not eating meat. Like if sthg taste better and is good 4 you. Why are we so stuck on fighting these changes. Why does it matter if you never eat meat again or if you never drive a gas car again or if solar and wind replace coal and oil. These ppl always bitch about jobs. But therell be new jobs plus the population is declining. Itll be a change and we have to keep up. One day robots will replace us all so these ppl are just so close-minded and stuck on their lifestyle. But yes if people were just honest and straight up. I think the world would be a better place. The politicians have to play the game otherwise they will lose, but to me your self-respect and dignity are worth more even if you're the only one standing alone. Anyways ranting and rambling again lol
Wonderful, Wayne. I'll always remember with some shame and incomprehension the time I just stood by and watched, upset, as a neighbourhood kid threw darts at frog lamely trying to hop away into the grass. . . . I was just a kid too, but that moment was emblem of many other moments in my life, I know. I look at that younger Me and want to shake him into saying something! Whatever social powers paralyzed me then, seem so inconsequential now. . . .that hood was my World, but having moved into a wider world since, I can see it was a small world with limits, with many arbitrary constraints. . . . constraints that can be challenged. Perhaps something like a religious view on our current world, or just a sense of a better, bigger-hearted world possible, lets us get outside the current one somewhat, and gives us that independent standpoint to challenge current cruelties and injustices. If we could go back to Grade Two knowing what we know now, we'd be awesome; analogously, there's some perspective or mode from which our current self is Grade Two-ish, and if we can just capture a glimmer of that possibility and carry it with us into this world, it can literally encourage us. . . .
Very interesting piece, thank you. I actually had this conversation a few days ago with a co-worker who asked me why I did not give someone my honest feedback, and I answered that it was because this person is a kind of alpha-male dominant type who appreciates direct ballsy challenges, but that is not my style. I do not raise my voice unless I am riled up, and I just KNOW that the person would not give value to my message not for the content but the WAY it was presented, so I just did not bother. So for me, it is not fear of speaking my mind, but knowing beforehand that my presentation style would not make headway with a person who loves a figurative slap in the face.
I guess we're a few that speak our minds. Since a teen I've been supporting the animal rights movement. I've been to 2 protests in my life. I'm 28 now and still fully support animal rights movement. It's so ridiculous that even powerful people can't see compassion for a innocent animal. I don't see why anyone would still support factory farming.. are they so damn afraid that they'll run out of food? They're stupid and selfish. I'll never understand why they wanna support keeping slaughter houses and the like no matter their excuse it's so beyond evil and absurd.
It's hard to understand, for sure. :(
Great your thinking these things through. One thing you don't seem to be addressing is malevolent forces against truth - like those for crt, etc - ready to attack, get people fired - knowing very well that they are on the side of untruth. I'm thinking of those against available cheap medication during the c-virus supposed pandemic. But also much else. By the way, i am very much for excellent communication skills, self-listening, etc.
I laughed when you said your paper is crap lol! I am glad you realized you should instead provide constructive criticism, but you are right. Things have become weird. A lot of Cancel Culture too where your whole life can be ruined and in some cases its justified like racism, but now theres so many things I used to say like the word "retard" when I called my sister this when she'd do sthg silly or thats "gay" sthg we said growing up in the 90s now is blasphemy. I would always say hey it means happy 😜 I am glad for the politically correct in some ways, but in others then we're all afraid to express ourselves. I kind of feel sorry for some white ppl because some of them are ashamed to be white because of all the backlash of some of their tyranny in the past and present concerning other races and I definitely believe we as minorities can be racist too against white ppl. But I have always strived to be honest. I have never been cruel in my honesty unless its sthg I feel is immoral, but I have always been upfront about my intentions which I find most ppl aren't. Somehow they always want sthg from you. I have never been like that. I give everyone chances. In the dating world especially. I tell a guy upfront I am just not feeling it and most of them get very angry which I do not understand as I say it very politely. As women we are taught more to be even more censored. I am sure if I was being raped, I would be afraid to scream because what if I am overreacting or I am making a scene. As women were taught more to shut up, serve men, were emotional. I had to fight the way I was raised. Respect your elders, never talk back, don't question your parents, etc. Nope respect is earned it doesn't matter who you are. My mom commends me now she's like I am glad you did somethings your own way even though I lived up to my early 20s how I believed she wanted me to be. Now I am a full blown Karen lmfao. Not the racist parts, but I will fight for my things and beliefs and if my opinion is warranted I do share. But even still I sometimes am afraid to say sthg. I start doubting myself. I have been in a lot of positions where corporations want to fuck you over by discriminating against you or doing illegal things like reporting unpaid wages, injuries, etc. Most of the time they do retaliate. I thought I had coworkers who were my "friends" and said they'd say sthg, but when the moment came they didnt stand up and say shit. I actually blew the whistle and HR ended up paying everyone months worth of unpaid wages and those pussy asses got it at my expense, but I am used to it cuz I am never afraid to get a new job. I was thinking about this politician like Cory Booker whos vegan, but he also keeps it very subtle and doesn't speak much about his beliefs because he will be ostracized. It just boggles my mind how people are so threatened by not eating meat. Like if sthg taste better and is good 4 you. Why are we so stuck on fighting these changes. Why does it matter if you never eat meat again or if you never drive a gas car again or if solar and wind replace coal and oil. These ppl always bitch about jobs. But therell be new jobs plus the population is declining. Itll be a change and we have to keep up. One day robots will replace us all so these ppl are just so close-minded and stuck on their lifestyle. But yes if people were just honest and straight up. I think the world would be a better place. The politicians have to play the game otherwise they will lose, but to me your self-respect and dignity are worth more even if you're the only one standing alone. Anyways ranting and rambling again lol
Wonderful, Wayne. I'll always remember with some shame and incomprehension the time I just stood by and watched, upset, as a neighbourhood kid threw darts at frog lamely trying to hop away into the grass. . . . I was just a kid too, but that moment was emblem of many other moments in my life, I know. I look at that younger Me and want to shake him into saying something! Whatever social powers paralyzed me then, seem so inconsequential now. . . .that hood was my World, but having moved into a wider world since, I can see it was a small world with limits, with many arbitrary constraints. . . . constraints that can be challenged. Perhaps something like a religious view on our current world, or just a sense of a better, bigger-hearted world possible, lets us get outside the current one somewhat, and gives us that independent standpoint to challenge current cruelties and injustices. If we could go back to Grade Two knowing what we know now, we'd be awesome; analogously, there's some perspective or mode from which our current self is Grade Two-ish, and if we can just capture a glimmer of that possibility and carry it with us into this world, it can literally encourage us. . . .
Thanks for sharing this, Paul
Very interesting piece, thank you. I actually had this conversation a few days ago with a co-worker who asked me why I did not give someone my honest feedback, and I answered that it was because this person is a kind of alpha-male dominant type who appreciates direct ballsy challenges, but that is not my style. I do not raise my voice unless I am riled up, and I just KNOW that the person would not give value to my message not for the content but the WAY it was presented, so I just did not bother. So for me, it is not fear of speaking my mind, but knowing beforehand that my presentation style would not make headway with a person who loves a figurative slap in the face.
That's really tough, Jen. And shows the struggle to create a better feedback culture. So many obstacles!
Sometimes it is difficult to speak the truth because worries about how the reaction will be. I am becoming braver however ! Thanks for this!
That's great to hear Catherine.